smalltownhomefry's Diary
Movin' Confusion
Added: April 21, 2008, 11:21 pm (
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Alright, so here's my deal...life's going pretty well I have a very loving, sweet boyfriend and I should be happy with the fact that he's so good to me, but lately I've been getting frustrated. You see, we have plans to move across the country with him and was really excited until we started discussing the living arrangements. He wants to get separate apartments but in the same complex so we're still close. He said it's nothing to do with me but he's lived with two girls before (that were just good friends) and it went so horribly wrong that he feels that it would ruin our relationship. To me though, living with one another is kinda the true test of whether or not two people should be together...sometimes love can't conquer all. So I asked when he thought it would no longer ruin things and he figures in another 8-18 months. This makes no sense to me because we aren't moving for another 7 months...so one more would make all the difference??? I don't understand why he thinks that I am the same as these women he's lived with before. They were disrespectful and gross, which I am not, plus this a whole different situation....we're in a relationship! I wouldn't mind this so much if his logic made any sense, but it doesn't. I mean, how am I supposed to be okay with moving across the country with someone that makes it seem like he views our relationship as something that is eventually doomed to fail because he is so certain that he couldn't handle living together? He says he wants to wait until we have a more serious, solid relationship. Maybe I just don't understand the definition of the word serious, because to me being in love and planning to leave everything behind to start over together is pretty serious, but I guess that's just me.
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Added: April 22, 2008, 2:10 amBy: Aaron Saray
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Added: April 22, 2008, 10:34 amBy: Prosper
You know your boyfriend might have a point and so do you. You said that living with one another is a true test of whether or not two people should be together right? Well what if you guys shouldn't be together. What if things go terribly wrong. Then you've moved across country living with someone you don't want to be with. Let's say that it is perfect--living seperately would make it so that the two of you don't get too much of a good thing. We all know that too much of a good thing can be a very bad thing. I don't know. I kinda thing you should consider that option of living seperately. Now eventually you two will have to come together under the same roof. But until then...you should take it from him.
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Added: April 25, 2008, 5:25 pmBy: Aaron Saray
How long total have you been dating this boy? Moving in - in your own location is big enough. Moving to a different location is huge. And - unless you are at the point where you think you're going to be engaged relatively shortly (1 month or less) or you're married, or you've been dating for like a long time (3+ years), I don't think anyone should move for someone else. THats why they made planes, phones, etc.
At any rate, I know I'm sounding bitter - but to me it sounds like you're moving for the boy, not wanting to move - and the boy is a pleasant surprise.
Just my $0.02 ;)
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