Aaron Saray's Diary

Keep positive people near you - make your life worthwhile

Through personal experience, I can say that my own life becomes better and of higher quality when I have positive people around me.  When I am near people who are downtrodden, I start to assume and expect the worst.  So, the solution is to keep happy, positive people around at all times - and expell the downers, right?  Well it is not always that easy...

There are benefits to having positive people around
When one person's happy, a lot of people are happy.  Our society is based upon this paradigm - notice the amount of parties that we like to throw - and the large amount of social gatherings.  People like to be around other people who are happy.  When we do this, we elevate our own moods.  It seems pretty much a brain-less choice to choose to stay around the positive people.

Everyone has a hard day
That isn't to say that positive people don't have problems - no noe has a perfect life - and no one deals with everything perfectly.  However, I keep thinking about people with horrible luck, health issues, amputees, etc - who are still happy.  You could imagine that they have been brought down once or twice - and I don't think they would hide that.  But, they know that its a hard day - not a hard life.  This is what makes them the postive people.

Your friends aren't always positive
Its a hard thing to realize, but not all of your friends are positive.  Whether its a friend or even a romantic interest, we participate in their lives because there is some sort of comfort in it.  What if your friends aren't positive?  However, that comfort - is really just a drug - a drug that is like every other drug.  It makes you feel warm and gooey, while tearing you down behind the scenes.

But its hard to leave your friends - even when you start realizing that they're starting to turn negative.  But, that doesn't have to be the end. You don't have to drop your friends.

Help people help you
Is it possible to help your friends stay positive?  Can you be that happy person that other people are drawn to - and in turn you raise the moral of the whole group?  I think its possible - but not without the proper re-energizing from the other happy people you surround yourself with.

You may need to work on your friends to get them to where you need to be.  If they won't, then maybe its time to start searching out new ones.

It is easier said than done
As with all advice from people who aren't in your own situation, its easier said than done.  I still struggle with my own advice, but I will attempt to follow it.  There's a lot of proof that it is worthwhile and truthful.